...I get left out. To quote Bill Nye in a situation that doesn't even require a quote, "Consider the following"
Situation A
I got some free tickets to a baseball game one Friday. They're good for the games on the following Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday. I knew I worked Wednesday, so my only 2 options were Tuesday and Thursday. I texted some friends "Hey there! Wanna go to a baseball game on Tuesday?" I got mixed responses:"Sure! I'd love to!" "Maybe, depending on how much homework I have." "No. I can't. I have class." In my mind, I said "OK. So that'll be 3 maybe 4 of us. That's a good group. Tuesday came around and I sent another round of texts to those who I got at least a "maybe" from: "Hey there! Baseball game tonight, right?" NONE, not even one, of them could go. That made me a little upset, but a couple of them apologised for thier oversight and agreed to go with me on Thursday. Thursday came around and they forgot again!!! So now I have about 10 free tickets sitting on my dresser that are worthless. They were never used and they will never be used. GAH!!!
Situation B
I have a friend that I've known for a few years. He and I have had our ups and downs, but for the most part we've stayed good friends through it all. We were friends in High school and we ended up at the same college last year, but now I'm somewhere else and we don't get to see each other as much. Anyway, he had to get somethings out of storage for his new apartment and decided that he would just make a weekend out of it and spend sometime with me while he was here. The plan was to spend all day Saturday and some of the evening on Sunday together. I texted him Saturday morning, "Hey! What's up? What's the plan?" and he said, "Idk. I'm having a deep conversation with my brother right now." Well, that deep conversation turned into the two of them hanging out. I'm not against brother time, but it cut into friend time and my feelings got hurt. GAH!!!
What's a girl to do? Do I tell these people "Hey! It really hurts my feelings when you don't follow through with our plans!"? That would make me sound like I'm needy and that I need everyone to do what I ask and that I'm not flexible around other plans, and I don't want that. Do I continue to let my friends take advantage of me and let them walk all over me like that? I don't know what to do!
So cool that you have a blog now! I'm looking forward to reading more.
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